It was a few days back when I wasn’t feeling quite right and needed a boost for my confidence and self-esteem. I decided to call a very good friend of mine to talk and share whatever was in my mind. Minutes or an hour later when I hung up I was in the same situation as before or worse I can say. What we talked about for so long was nothing related to me, surprisingly because I had called to crib about my problems and dilemmas, which for some people don’t exist in my life. For them, I live a perfect life and therefore I have no right to crib or complaint.
But this wasn’t the first time something like this happened. I know, if I say this I should have become used to it by now, which I have but.. Oh I so wish this life was devoid of ifs and buts. Yes, but those expectations. No matter how much we train our mind to not expect anything from people, our heart fails us when it grows close to someone. No, we won’t talk about expectations in this post.
So, has it ever happened with you that all you really wanted was to blabber and somewhere was there to just listen, JUST LISTEN. No advice, no solutions, no questions, no answers. Just pure listening. I know you would have wanted that. Everyone wants that, but rare people get that. Because what happens is you end up listening to that person instead!! And you know why you do that! Because you know how it feels to not have someone to listen. So which side are you on? The listeners or the blabbers?
If you belong to the former group, I give you a warm hug. I totally understand what you go through.
But I wonder why is that so? Why don’t we listen anymore? Why are we ready to react, advice and conclude just when the words come out of the speaker’s mouth. Where is the patience gone? Where is the empathy to feel? Where is the art of listening vanished? Is it because we live the age of technology where everything is so instant that nobody has time or patience to pause for a minute and listen to what others have to say? There are only questions but answers none.
But I guess this answers the sudden rise of writers these days. Everybody is opting the company of the pen because it doesn’t judge, it listens to those words the writer pens down in the page, it feels the emotions the writer carve into poetry, it understands. Silence becomes the sound a listener begins to love because it hears the thoughts which no one pays attention to, it understands.
Because sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.
Linking this to #MondayMusings @ Everyday Gyaan