Somewhere I Belong

A decade in this region. Is it home now?

I will be completing ten years of living in NCR in a few monthsโ€™ time. This city or this region with blurred boundaries have now started to feel like home. It is the longest I have lived in any city. With dad being posted in different cities, we kept moving every few years with our bag and baggage. Graduation, higher studies and then work took me around the country. Home was always called wherever the parents were, whether the city felt like it or not.

To me it felt like a natural response until I met people who had spent their complete lives in the same city or had a single city as their home all their life. I was not aware of the emotion of calling one city my home. For us, finding a new neighbourhood, new go-to grocery shops, new tailor, new drycleaners, new salon, was a usual exercise every few years when we moved. In conversations about hometowns, I always had the least to offer.

I think, that somewhat made it easier to adapt in any city, where others struggled with homesickness. For me, homesickness was made of feelings of missing parents, sibling and home-made food. Descriptions of my room, my favourite places in the city were different at various stages of my life.

Slowly, the longing of being tethered to a city crept in.

Being here for ten years now, still sometimes leaves me wondering if this is where I belong. But something still feels missing I guess, because when people around me talk about yesteryears, my mind still wanders to different cities.

So where is home?

I know, people call many things their home.

Their house.

Their partner.

Their family.

Their friends.

Their city.

Their corner.

I think, apart from the people I love, a part of my home lives in all those cities I lived in, where a part of me still dwells.

Where, a part of me still remembers the samosa of that corner shop.

Or that Kala Jamun of the famous sweet shop.

Or that perfect tailor by the main road.

Or those โ€˜pani ke batasheโ€™ at the second turn from the house.

Or that piece of โ€˜Baal Mithaiโ€™ that Papa used to get while returning from work.

Or may be the terrace where I first rode a bicycle.

Or the lanes of the colony where I found my best friend.

Or may be the city that witnessed me growing up.

Or may be this city where I am building the life of my dreams with my life partner.

Or may be some other city my future self would be calling home.

Or just maybe I can call all these cities my home and not just one. Because the address that kept changing with time changed me too.

Which city do you call home? Or have you been moving around as well?


This blog is sprinting its way to the finish line with Piyushโ€™s Plotters as part of The Blogchatter Half Marathon!



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7 thoughts on “Somewhere I Belong”

  1. Nibha, I can relate to your post partially. I was born and brought up in Mumbai and I moved out of my city after 30 years. Next 20 odd years I travelled all over the country with my Naval Aviator husband. We moved cities every couple of years, sometimes in only one year. My kids are just like you, missing their old homes and cities. I miss Mumbai. We too are in Delhi/NCR for the past 16 years and it feels like home finally.

  2. Fantastic experiences of a decade you write.Me also a part of it. In my opinion Home is where you & your sentiments live together otherwise
    Homesickness is big negative factor
    in anyone’s life. Your viewpoint towards life and material things
    count much defining Home where
    you live or want to live. Quality of life
    being a human you explore or wish or desire is also important regarding permanent Home.

  3. I completely echo your thoughts and feelings. And yes, home is definitely family, but also the places weโ€™ve lived in along the way. The places that welcomed us, shaped us, left a little piece of themselves in us, and quietly made us who we are today. Some places simply feel like or is home.

  4. I wonder, at times, if everyone feels the same about the places one lives in. Your thoughts gave me a new perspective. Thank you for sharing.

  5. This is so heartwarming and heartbreaking at the same time. I have not been in a similar situation but I understand your emotions completely.

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